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Why Does Your Child Lose Interest In Musical Education?
Have you ever asked your son or daughter to demonstrate their skills learned in musical
education in front of your guests? I am one hundred percent sure that it has happened
at least once. Now we shall ask the parents whose children still (or already) do
not take part in musical education, another question: Have you ever been lucky enough
to hear a little musician practicing a new piece during your visit to relatives or
friends? I think you have.
Let’s see how perceptive you are. How well do you remember the child’s reaction to
his parents’ request to play something for the guests? Did he glow with pride and
rush to the instrument? In that case, we congratulate the music teacher and especially
the parents: you did your job perfectly well!
But what if the child’s reaction was negative?
Having worked with children and adults for many years, I often noticed that parents
had to force, or, at least, persuade children to do their music homework, an important
constituent in musical education. The parents tended to blame everything on a child’s
laziness. Let’s see if there is actually any sense to that statement.
Without even reading the books on education about age-specific features of children,
it is clear that small children are hardly ever lazy, and it is also a fact. More
often, parents get tired of their hyperactivity, so we will disregard “laziness”
as a possible reason and concentrate on what is hidden behind this word.
Usually, at first, children will play a musical instrument with pleasure. But as
time passes, problems during the lessons and at home begin. While studying the reasons
behind the loss of interest in music education, I heard and wrote down many different
opinions. As a rule, they all stated, “My child was so driven, well-behaved, simply
remarkable! As soon as he heard music he was dancing and singing. And when we had
company, he himself asked us to listen to what he had recently learned to play. Now
he has completely changed!”
Complaining that their children became simply intolerable and uninterested in musical
education, parents accused everyone, including their children’s new friends, music
Actually, very few people understand that most of the problems regarding a child’s
unwillingness to study are provoked by their parents. And those problems can be caused
by the different reasons. Some children lose interest in music education by the end
of the first year of training, and others, in three or five years, and sometimes
during the teen years. Please, dear parents, pay close attention to the fact that
if the child does not want to study from the very beginning, the reason, as a rule,
is his psychological unreadiness for training. So let’s pose a question: Who, in
your opinion, is responsible for it? You, the parents, of course!
No one likes to make mistakes. Yes, it is great to learn from our own mistakes, but
it can be painful. So if there is an opportunity to learn from the mistakes of others
– use it! The most important thing is a desire to learn.